The amount of lesbians who know that they’re lesbians from a young age versus the amount of gay men who know that they’re gay from a young age shows a staggering difference in that most lesbians take way longer to realize that they’re gay.
Girls are told that dating men is supposed to be hard and essentially unfulfilling. That it’s normal to expend emotional and sexual labor without receiving anything or feeling anything in return. Girls are told that their attraction to men and relationships with men should be difficult and sometimes feel forced because men are so emotionally lacking or otherwise “hypermasculine”.
Realizing that you don’t like men because you’re gay versus just feeling emotionally exhausted or unable/unsure of how to “please” men is part of the reason why compulsory heterosexuality is so damaging. It forces many girls to continue to date men and to keep trying to feel attraction to them long after they’ve realized that there’s nothing there—particularly blaming themselves for the reasons why relationships with men don’t work out instead of thinking it’s an indicator of being gay, which most (though of course not all) gay men are able to recognize as an initial indicator.
Probably worth noting that I have seen this apply just as equally to trans women as cis, to the point of many trans girls not transitioning or delaying their transition because they’ve been raised to believe they can’t possibly be women if they’re also attracted to women.
That turned out to be my favourite from that night. Because of the drizzle/ gunpowder smoke/ slight fog, I have almost none of the classic, crisp fireworks pics you see everyhwere, but the sky produced some incredible colours. No filter - just something looking like a little galaxy that puffed out of existence a sec later.
last week my boyfriend came over to my house for the first time and I asked him if he wanted the wifi password and he said “I’m not worried about the wifi I just want to talk to you” and I stared at him in shock for about 15 seconds trying to figure out how to reply
